About This Picture...

"I chose this picture as one of my favorites not because it was the most glamorous or the sexiest, but because it reminds me of the "girl next door."  Part of feeling complete is to feel completely integrated.  Sure, you might be able to take an attractive picture, but that's just one split-second of your overall life.

Once you have completed your transformation, it's not a part-time thing. You are a woman while you sleep at night and when you wake up the morning. You are a woman when you are crying your eyes out during PMS and when you are laughing yourself sick from a joke and aren't even thinking about what gender you are.

Yeah, for those who wish they could take this journey, or for those who just get turned on by the whole prospect, it all boils down to a single concept: the notion of being male and then becoming female.  But if you actually live this life, you get over that strange juxtaposition of who you are and who you were, and instead, you start living life pretty much as any other woman.

Since you already changed sex, you don't have fantasies of that anymore. Sure, you have goals, dreams, and desires, but they aren't gender-related - at least not any more than any other woman's.  No, you  worry about the bills, you have fights and make friends, you do chores around the house, maybe have a job or a career.  And through it all, though you are aware of your gender, it isn't the focus of your life, just the context in which it is lived.

Now, this isn't to say that you don't think about sex many times during the day, but then, doesn't everybody?  Mostly, as much as it may disappoint some or excite others, the simple truth is that if you are truly successful in becoming a woman, rather than just managing to look and act like one, all the strangeness, magic, and wonder of having become female eventually fades away.  And all that is left is your life as a woman, which becomes, as for any woman, nothing more or less than you make it by living your everyday life."

~~Melanie Anne

Melanie is a prolific author, musician, composer,
teacher, theorist, and successful businesswoman.

She is also the founder of the first Transgender Forum on America Online
and the creator of the world's very first Transgender Support Web Site.

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The world's very first Transgender Support Web site

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